How to help your child set goals

Every parent wants their child to succeed. And to succeed, one needs to be equipped with skills that can set them up for success. One of these skills is learning how to set goals. 

Setting goals from a young age teaches children the importance of planning and taking action to achieve their goals, explains SPARK Rosslyn Hub Principal Ziphindile Mbiza. 

When a child accomplishes their goals, this can boost their confidence and self-esteem. 

“Through goal-setting, children can make better decisions and stay motivated to achieve daily goals,” Mbiza says.

As a parent, there are many ways you can teach your child to set goals; however, you need to be aware of what your child can handle to ensure they don’t get overwhelmed. 

Here are some tips on how you can help your child set their goals. 

Identify your child’s strengths and weaknesses. 

It is essential to understand your child’s strengths and weaknesses before you even begin to set goals.

“As a parent, you can use your child’s strengths to show them what is achievable, Mbiza says. 

Have a conversation with your child about what they want to achieve; you can ask them some of these questions. 

  • What is the goal that you want to achieve?
  • Why do you want to achieve this goal? 
  • How will you achieve the goal? 
  • When do you want to achieve this goal?
  •  How would achieving the goal help you?
  • How will achieving this goal make you feel? 
  •  If you feel like giving up, what will you do?

“Simplify the process of reaching their goals by providing actionable steps that would be easy for children to follow or remember,” she says.  

Help them visualise the goal

Most people use visualisation to motivate themselves to achieve specific goals. Mbiza advises parents to think of ways to make goal setting exciting by thinking about ways children can visually see their goals daily. 

This could be helping them come up with a vision board, where they can cut pictures of what they want to accomplish and put it up on their bedroom wall or the fridge.  They can also print out a goal-setting planner such as the WOOP method. WOOP is a scientifically proven method where you specify your Wish, Outcome, Obstacle and Plan. This will also help them to track their progress.

Track progress

Once your child has set their goals, check-in with them weekly, daily or monthly to see their progress. It is essential to keep track of their progress to see what challenges they might be encountering and how you can help them overcome. This also shows your child that you are invested in their success.  





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